The eternal itch….
Most of the love stories end with a “and they lived happily ever after” tagline. Some dont.. i agree… but most do…. kindly agree 
What happens to people who have had the luxury of living a
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life before falling in love and getting married? do they play along with the script of the “happily married” fairy tale? Do they not feel claustrophobic at some point in the relationship and start looking for someone with whom they have not already shared everything?
I feel that the above mentioned concerns are based upon a very narrow definition of love…. Most of us have been brought up with the understanding that we need to have a one mate per lifetime policy… some of us (yours truly included) wonder how that is possible… some others dont think too much about it and get busy with other things in life…like making money and yet some others gain control (???) over this desire and take pride in having been on the right side of the fidelity (????) line…
What happens to people who treat the “one mate per lifetime” policy like a social rule and secretly believe that a mate need not necessarily be a soulmate… for them the most sacred commandments are “Thou shall not be caught” along with “innocent till proven otherwise”. I believe, this is not a very good state to be in…
So what are the options for these “infidelity(??) prone types”? let me take a few guesses:–
1) Try to live with what they have and make better of it…. try making the mate they have as their soulmate.
2) Try explaining to their lifemate that they might need a soulmate at somepoint of time.. (ha ha…. God might be able to get away with that)
3) Try to keep themselves from harbouring such unholy thoughts and forever walk the thin line of righteousness(???)
4) Try to somehow ‘maintain’ a soulmate without letting the mate know about it. You see, lifemates generally take their soulmate status as something ‘Given’, they wont react very well when he truth dawns upon them..
OHH!! i forgot to mention something…. there are people who keep finding soulmates (genuinely) every now and then (believe me their are such people)…. Wow!! now that complicates everything… How do we accomodate them?
This whole blogpost seems to have been one big mistake…. you wont be able to make sense of it… i cant communicate this in a better manner…. i am confused as i was before… and you are thinking ” He has lost it big time…”
But i would like to end this post with a thought….. think for a while… what happens if you end up with a person as un-decipherable as this blog? what if this person is your supposedly one perlifetime mate?….
Best of luck mates 
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Believe it or not – is the choice you make! (I have been saying this always, because it is SO TRUE)
This nature is balanced and it has to stay balanced. You have to balance your Karmas with people you meet.
Don’t you worry to think so much complicated stuff because you will keep questioning but the answers will be already there within you, within your trusted circumstances.
As you said, people do meet their soul mates – genuinely !- YES THEY DO. And YOU WILL TOO. It will again be a choice that you make to believe in that fact, in that soul mate or not.
“What happens if you end up with a person as un-decipherable as this blog?” – This blog was indeed decipherable one and hence was not understood in one shot, I read it for minimum 5 times with some interval between each ‘read’ and I was thinking about it when I was not reading it. Ultimately I took the meaning out of it which made sense to me. I did find the answer for your questions based on my understanding and I am happy with that. So, bottom line – You will find your own way out in any situation.
Some things look as un-decipherable, but that is because you ignored to see the deciphered part of it.
P.S: I think my comment sounds little rude, but please note that it’s not the fact. It’s just English language which makes it look like that
Correction in above comment –
“What happens if you end up with a person as un-decipherable as this blog?” – This blog was indeed decipherable one
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“What happens if you end up with a person as un-decipherable as this blog?” – This blog was indeed un-decipherable one
Hmmm….
“The Eternal Itch” — Well I am certainly itching to answer your questions at one shot but would restrain myself due to various reasons…
One thing though, I don’t subscribe to any of your idea… Agreed, that we are taught to be doing lot of things… but to tell you truly, once you meet true love (or your soulmate for that matter) I dont think you will itch at all, coz it is so beautiful and wonderful that you dont want to think of anything else… Another reason for not going for more than 1, let us say you essentially get to your soulmate… do you think you can have more than one soulmates.. think again mate, cause the whole idea of pouring out yourself again and again to different people will be so draining on you that you would forget about doing anything… and in the end no soulmates (instead of 1). Agreed finding one would be critical to the success of this whole idea.
Gaurav Dear, good to have your comment here. I have two things to say to your line of thought
1) ‘true love’ is the most deadly combination of two fairly harmless words. The reason why we differ in our ideas is that i do not believe ‘true love’ exists and you on the other hand can swear to God that it does
2) The drain that you are talking about does not happen. Communication between soulmates is the most natural thing of all and so is spontaneous, personaly i feel- the more soulmates you have, the better it is. As far as I am concerned i dont see the point in designating the lifemate as the de facto soulmate, just because two people have been thrown together, doesnt mean they should be soulmates…. it might help if they are… but they should be OK even if they are not..
But i guess this difference of beliefs, is a healthy one. and so shud remain as it is
bhai tum sab ek jaise blog kyun likh rahe ho…vaise kum tension hain jo aisi baatein kar rahe ho…vaise mast likha hain…:)
Kya Manik……sahi toh likha hai isne….meri dil ki baat likh di…..aur kuch special special comments aaye hain par yaha post nahi kiya gaya hai…..Manan padh ke wo sab comments khushi se pagal ho gaya tha
hmm… Man… you have really lost it big time…. hahaha…